Yoga: Soul-Work and Gift Boxes

When I decided to go into a yoga certification program, I knew I would change, but not at a soul-deep level. I figured I would learn the names of poses, the appropriate and effective way to teach students in a safe manner.

What I didn’t anticipate was the type of growth and work I would do to become a teacher. When we began learning about the yoga values (or the eight-limb path for you fellow yogis out there) I didn’t anticipate it changing, well kind of, EVERYTHING.

 

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The Climb It Took to Learn to Fail...

If there’s one thing I wish I had practiced earlier in my life, it’s failing. Call me crazy. But the thing is, when you haven’t done it much, when you’ve expected nothing short of perfection from yourself, any small, or even, perceived failure can be debilitating. Like laying on the floor in a pool of tears and maybe one too many pints of Ben & Jerry’s debilitating. Or looking back on the last four years of your life with the realization that you’ve played it safe debilitating...

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BEcoming a SOULdier...

First, let me say that soldiers are BRAVE,COURAGEOUS, DISCIPLINED, COMMITTED, LOYAL and DRIVEN. If we can strive for these qualities on our SOUL-JOURNEY then we are going to be successful!!

I posted a live chat about this and honestly, it was my very FAVORITE. 

Other than announcing Laughing Lotus Wellness of course. 

Our maiden song is, "All These Things That I've Done" by the Killers. Check it OUT...

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Aparigraha: Letting Go.

Aparigraha: Letting Go.

So, here we are again with my series on yoga concepts/values and how they translate into our here and now.

My yogi friend did her report on Aparigraha and NAILED IT.

Let us consider the things that we can all work on in terms of letting go:

-THINGS.

Could you stand to purge some things from your home? Work place? Man, I know I could stand to do this and was prompted to go through some clothes, mugs and other household items (this was tough for me, but I did it). Our things can WEIGH US DOWN. Our clutter becomes “clutter” of the soul.

*I challenge you to get rid of 5 items you no longer need. Try DONATION. That is good for your soul so it is a two-fer.

Click on the link and read the rest of the gauntlet I throw down for you!! 

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Brahma the WHATA??? Lessons in Yoga Yamas...

So, first I couldn't PRONOUNCE it, then I had to do a report on this somewhat elusive YAMA in yoga. A yama is a value in yoga (in easy terms it is a DO form of value).

I drew this yama to do a report on and Friday I shared that with my certification group!! When I first drew it the leader of our group that day was like, "ooooooohhh, that is kind of a tough one". (oh GOOD, I think in my head. PERFECT. It is probably something crazy that I will struggle to explain in my report, EXCELLLLENT).

Come on over to my blog to hear the rest of the story!! 

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The "C" Word: Making Friends with Change (That Dirty B);

The C Word: How to Make Friends with Change. (that dirty B).

Ugh. That word though, right?

I just watched a painful live video by my cousin’s daughter and I will refer to her here as my niece because that is what she FEELS like to me.

We recently had a family loss when my cousin died unexpectedly. He was young, I mean like a year or two older than me.

It was shocking, devastating and so hard.

I hadn’t been close to my cousin since we were kids because we lived across the country from one another, but I was shocked to the core to learn of his passing and so deeply concerned for his immediate family.

It sent ripples of pain. It was a reminder of my own loss not so long ago and occurred really close to the anniversary of my mom’s death on May 31st.

That day is a shitty reminder of those events around what happened and our very last day with my mom.

It surprises me every year how truly awful that day feels. Even in the beauty of being with her in the very end, it is a stab directly to the soul when I think of losing her.

With that loss in mind I turned to the loss of my cousin with that reference in mind and it rocked me a little bit (okay, maybe tsunami style).

I needed a little hiatus from my live chats and Laughing Lotus as I muddled through this emotional time. Again, surprised by how this major change in my life (and my cousin’s immediate family) has affected so many things.

Now, I could go on about the good aspects of change and that would be very POSITIVE of me, but I am nothing if not honest.

Change can suck the big one.

BAD.

However, the other side of the fence with change is that it is the ONLY thing we can count on right?

I have discussed this with clients…

How DO we do change? How can we make friends with this very eventuality?

1)    Be AWARE of it. Note the change and honor the feelings that come with it.

2)    Be THOUGHTFUL. Pay close attention to your thoughts ABOUT the change as this will have everything to do with how challenging or successful it can be.

3)    Use SUPPORT. Yup. Connect. Sometimes you won’t want to, but that is just that dirty bitch whispering in your ear that you need to do it alone. That is a LIE.

Reach out to your network of loved ones and ask for (gasp) HELP. Communicate what your needs are so people CAN support and love you.

4)    Take TIME. Take good care of yourself. Slow down. Take time for walks, meditation, prayer, play, reading, time with friends/family, massage, getting out in nature, manicures/pedicures, laughter, Maybe take a nap. Journal and get it touch with WHERE you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

I was recently in Grand Marais, up on the North Shore in MN and I love it. It is a soul-home for me. I am so grounded in that place. I placed some of my mom’s ashes in the lake right in one of my favorite places to sit.

I needed to go and be there on my recent trip and we were with friends camping. My husband rode into town with me and he looked for an anniversary card for me while I made the trek to that spot to honor her.

I cried the whole way there. I was shocked by my reaction. As I navigated out to the point and the place I love to visit I talked toher and cried. There was no one out on the point and I was so grateful for that journey alone in my heart so I could just be WITH her.

My husband came and found me after finding his anniversary card and just sat in back of me with his arms around me. It was a perfect reflection of his love and support. It was our anniversary the next day and I couldn’t imagine going through this major change in my life without him. He has been my rock in a million ways.

As I looked out at the beautiful blue water, wrapped in my husband’s arms, I reflected on how challenging this change has been for me and continues to be.

I think I believed that grief and change would come and GO. Right?

Like easy-peasy.

NOPE.

That shit is a lie and I don’t lie.

Some change is forever and takes constant moderation on our part to manage it.

So, I took a bit of a hiatus because my heart needed it. And it was SO GOOD for me.

So the last tip I have is this:

5)    LISTEN. Listen to your SOUL. When you are going through major life changes and shifts your needs will also change. If you need to be busy, be busy. If you need to be quiet and reflective, be quiet and reflective. Your soul is NEVER wrong.

Do yourself a favor and contemplate:

Books you’ve read, movies you’ve seen, people you know who’ve experienced change…HOW did they do it? What steps did they take?

We can either go kicking and screaming or quietly my friends. Sometimes it requires both to survive it.

And THAT is okay too.

Go forth into change and make friends with it. Accept it. Acknowledge it. Go THROUGH it. Have compassion for yourself and others who are experiencing big changes. Treat your change like a friend and you will come out the other side with less bumps and bruises.

A tender heart? Most assuredly, but that was going to happen anyway.

Nature always teaches us lessons, doesn’t it?

Change is CONSTANT. The water erodes the rocks, it creates the landscape. Fire destroys so that new growth can emerge. Things live and they die so that life can re-emerge every time.

No need to look further than nature.

Take a listen to “Thunder” by Imagine Dragons ( I am OBSESSED with this song right now).

It is a song about not giving up and living BIG.

My niece said to live every moment in her live post. It struck me then. Thunder is about LIVING, not giving up, being WHO we are and that is a BIG thing.

Inspiration is all around. So, thank you to Kylie for her honesty, vulnerability, my own story/change and aching heart for direction. For Imagine Dragons who ROCKS my damn world.

Live BIG and LOUD as Thunder friends and make friends with change. It is going to happen anyway.

 

Blog: New Beginnings and the WHY'...

It is amazing to look back on our journeys and see the myriad of paths that lead us EXACTLY where we need to be. Sometimes, the difficult and most challenging moments actually create the BEST results for us.

When I began to formulate this business it was borne of so much wisdom and experience in working with people. Stories became the outline of my life. I have a passion for teaching and connecting to those around me. Particularly those who want to move forward, reach higher and achieve better, more comprehensive JOY in their lives.

I have been in an office seeing clients for years and have learned so much from their experiences. It is an HONOR to be trusted in this way.

This leads me to desire a space where people can come together to explore the aspects of wellness and the best ways to achieve it!

As a fitness coach I also learned two very valuable lessons. First, group support and accountability are PARAMOUNT in success. Second, that personal development is a way to stay rooted in our learning and growing!

So here we are!! My Wellness Forum is open and our first Self-Care Wellness Community 30-day run is on the horizon! Craziness. 

I can't wait to see who will join me on my path and I am excited to see the amazing connections we will make!